Stop Abuse- Stop Abusing Yourself First


Do you abuse yourself? Often, abuse is spoken of as harming someone else. But have we considered self abuse? Abuse is defined as any thing that is harmful, injurious, or offensive or improper treatment.  Abuse also includes excessive and wrongful misuse of anything.  Misuse is defined as incorrect or unknowledgeable handling. So when you handle yourself incorrectly or in an unknowledgeable manner,  you may actually be abusing yourself?

Do you abuse yourself?  Do you sleep late, work late, eat junk, neglect your body, worry excessively?

Do you find it hard to get out out of the trap you've got yourself into? Do you find you are swimming in a mire of quicksand unable to get out? Do you find you have gotten weary and disillusioned with life?

Consider these:

Physical  abuse:  

Do you abuse your physical life? Do you put poison in your body? Do you drink excessively, smoke, take excessive medication or drugs? Do you put excessive food, animal fat, grease to clog up your arteries, carcinogens, allergens, chemicals, additives and addictive agents into your body? 

Do you allow your body to rest and rejuvenate and deprive it of having enough sleep and rest? Do you work your body so hard that it doesn't have a chance to recover?

Do you deprive yourself of recreation?

Mental abuse: 

Do you abuse your mental life? Do you think the same thoughts over again? Do you deprive yourself of expanding your horizons, learning a new skill?


Are you trapped in the same old way of thinking and deprive yourself of the adventure of expanding your horizons?  Our minds are meant to be used. If you don't use, you lose.


Do you deprive yourself of mental breaks? Do you have too much mental break and do not exercise your mind enough? Do you take time to dream or do you dream excessively and do not put into action?



Emotional abuse:



Do you abuse your emotional life? Do you tell yourself you're no good, worry unnecessarily, think negative thoughts,?


Do you bear grudges, harbor anger, doubt, guilt, regrets? Do you harbor unforgiveness towards yourself or someone else?


Do you remember grudges and magnify them?


Do you beat yourself up when something goes wrong, and blame yourself



Do you blame others excessively something goes wrong?


Personal life abuse:


Do you abuse your personal life? Do you form bad habits that are hard to break? Do you find yourself drawn to these bad habits over and over again and cannot help yourself?  


Do you sabotage yourself? Do you work very had for something and when it is near to success, back away?


Do you deprive yourself of the things you ant to do? Have you lost the capacity for enjoyment, that even if you had a million dollars or the environment is right, you are not able to enjoy?


Spiritual abuse:

Do you abuse yourself spiritually? Do you harden yourself against the wonder and beauty of the world?


Do you alienate from the love, goodness your creator has to offer and deprive your connection with yourself and your creator?


Have you gone cynical and disillusioned with everything that goes on around you?



Do you abuse your family and relationships? Do you treat them as objects ? do you  use your mind to gain control over another person?


Do you treat them as inferior to yourself and impose your will over them excessively without considering their feelings?


Do you allow yourself to think excessively lowly of anyone?


Elderly, Children, Minors, Animals:


Do you abuse those that do not have a choice what you do, can cannot protect themselves?


Stop abuse.


If you have abused yourself, stop it.

Treat yourself with care.


Think of the the consequences of the abuse.


Early death,


Slow, painful death,


Mental suffering and anguish




Bruised feelings,






Is this how you want to live?


If you want to get out, get out fast. 

Seek help.

Read, discover, learn ways of stopping abuse for yourself.


Seek professional help, if needed.


Stop abusing yourself.


Stop abusing your loved ones.


This is written in conjunction with Stop Abuse Bloggers Unite. 

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Great food for thought.

I think part of the process of growing as a person is realizing your faults and engaging in spiritual practices to overcome what you call abuse.

Spiritual life can mean many things to many people and I'm not here to preach. However, by asking to be forgiven, asking for help, realizing that its not all about you and trying to serve others, gradually everything else in your life will improve.

The Creator, God, the Universe, The Higher Power, Krishna, or whatever you feel comfortable with, can and will help you and forgive you.

And since you are forgiven, you can begin to forgive others AND yourself.

All blessings to you,


admin said:

Thanks for your comments. I agree totally. Being forgiven is important, and the key to forgiving yourself and others.
Blessings and all the best!

Lei said:

Thankyou soo much.I now know what is wrong with me.At first,I thought it was be ause I was growing up or because im just naturally emo or depressed.But know I know what it wrong with me.I am EMOTIONALLY ABUSING MYSELF AND BLAMEING OTHERS FOR IT.I CANT HELP IT.I tell myself Im a loser and worth nothing,And i believe it,Basically because I suck.I suck at everything.I suck in gym class(I cant dribble a basket ball while running while everyone else can,I fail science class no matter how hard I study.I am NOTHING.I cant help it.I try to stop emotionally abuseing myself but I cant.What else can I do Other than talk to someone or see a councelor??

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