Clarity is power. Clarity in knowing yourself is more power.
Our unconscious actions often speak louder than words, and can be a blind spot. If you analyse your actions, you may find that pleasing others comes is more important than pleasing oneself. For what ever reason- gaining acceptance, living up to an image, or simply thinking the other person's opinion is more important than your own opinion. This often leads to unspoken frustration- that nagging feeling that something is not right, not complete, not fully done. Over time, it can accumulate and lead to anger and depression.
Other people are important, but your needs are too. You are special. You need to allow yourself some space. You could be considerate of others and at the same time you could be just yourself in order to maintain personal balance and sanity.
Do you abuse yourself? Often, abuse is spoken of as harming someone else. But have we considered self abuse? Abuse is defined as any thing that is harmful, injurious, or offensive or improper treatment. Abuse also includes excessive and wrongful misuse of anything. Misuse is defined as incorrect or unknowledgeable handling. So when you handle yourself incorrectly or in an unknowledgeable manner, you may actually be abusing yourself?
Do you abuse yourself? Do you sleep late, work late, eat junk, neglect your body, worry excessively?
Do you find it hard to get out out of the trap you've got yourself into? Do you find you are swimming in a mire of quicksand unable to get out? Do you find you have gotten weary and disillusioned with life?
All of us have fears. Some are healthy, some are not. Unhealthy fears can stop us from being our best or achieving what we are potentially capable of. We all have talents, abilities, dreams, aspirations. But we don't get to achieve our full potential or achieve what we really want. There are 3 main types of fear that can stop you from achieving the life of your dreams.
1. Fear of failure 2. Fear of success 3. Fear of ridicule
1. Fear of failure is quite normal . But if it becomes excessive it can be paralyzing. Fear of failure can be seen in the following situations:
How to improve self confidence is both a skill and a habit that is cultivated and developed, whether consciously or unconsciously. For some, increasing self confidence comes more easily than others. There are, however, quick start ways to boost your self confidence if you need a quick boost for certain situations in a short period of time.
Here's an article by Mark Tyrell on increasing self confidence with positive thoughts and hypnosis. It is simply applying techniques that affirm yourself and targeting your subconscious mind to work for you rather than against you. When everything is in alignment, ie, thoughts, intentions and emotions, self confidence then comes naturally. Note especially the last portion where he gives 3 simple but effective tips to increase self confidence quickly. Enjoy.
"I used to be frighteningly under confident in social situations.
Your self image and how you think of yourself is the determinant of your success, behavior and outcome in life. It is the blueprint upon which you will behave. All your actions feelings, behavior, and abilities will be consistent with this self image. You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be. Maxwell Matz in his book Psychocybernetics, even goes as far as to mention that you literally cannot behave contrary to your self image, in spite of your conscious efforts or power.
Having a high self-esteem is essential to happiness, success and fulfillment. Having self esteem simply means to appreciate yourself, to regard yourself as worthy and important, purposeful, accepted and confident.
How you esteem yourself is reflected in your self image and it is your conception of your beliefs about yourself. How you see yourself therefore will influence your thoughts actions, feelings and behavior and ultimately your abilities and the results you produce in your life.
If your self-esteem is not high, you will tend to carry an image of yourself as a defeated person, a person of little worth and regard, an object a victim of injustice and defeat. On the contrary, when you have high self-esteem, you will have a positive self-image and carry a picture of optimism, positivity and purpose.
You are unique. There will never be someone else like you. Don't compare. Don't undermine your worth Because you are different, that is why you are special.
Often, people focus on what they wish they were not or what they wish they could be rather than who they really are.
Only you know what is best for you. You can make a difference regardless of what you are, where you are what your resources and talents are.
You are the greatest wonder of the world. You are nature's greatest miracle. Og Mandino declares this uniqueness and wonder " The Greatest Salesman in the World."
" I am nature's greatest miracle.
Since the beginning of time never has there been another with my mind, my heart, my eyes, my ears my hands my hair, my mouth. None that cam before, none that live today, and none that come tomorrow can walk and talk and love and think exactly like me….
A mother's love. So spontaneous, so unconditional, yet foundational in a child's life. It embodies the hope, dreams, faith, promises that have yet to be fulfilled. When we look at a child, he/she is so full of potential and hope- we can dream again- that this life will be able to experience the happiness that he/she is deserving of.
Here is an exerpt of Malika Chopra's hopes, dreams and promises for her child…
" There's only thing in this world that's worth having. Love. You love somebody, somebody loves you. That's all there is to it. But if you don't get that, you've got nothing, so you take the next best thing. You take power or money or fame or whatever little morsel you can pick for yourself as second best."
Charles Mergendahl in 'The next best thing'
People need people. People need love.
Often we live on things that are second best if we do not have what we really want.
At the crux of it all, we want dignity, to be appreciated, to have.
The recent shooting in Virginia Tech is to be lamented.
Self esteem is how we view ourselves, our self concept. Our opinion of ourselves influences the way we think and act in any situation. It is a major component in determining success or failure in any endeavor. Unless you perceive yourself to be worthwhile, you cannot accomplish what you really want to. You will not have the confidence to go ahead and pursue a vision, create a plan, or be internally driven. You must believe in yourselfand feel worthy of creating and following a dream. You must feel that you deserve success. You must feel that you are truly able to perform well at work, create value, have great relationships and accomplish our roles are parents friends, partners.
Stumble it!
Our unconscious actions often speak louder than words, and can be a blind spot. If you analyse your actions, you may find that pleasing others comes is more important than pleasing oneself. For what ever reason- gaining acceptance, living up to an image, or simply thinking the other person's opinion is more important than your own opinion. This often leads to unspoken frustration- that nagging feeling that something is not right, not complete, not fully done. Over time, it can accumulate and lead to anger and depression. 
Do you abuse yourself? Often, abuse is spoken of as harming someone else. But have we considered self abuse? Abuse is defined as any thing that is harmful, injurious, or offensive or improper treatment. Abuse also includes excessive and wrongful 
All of us have fears. Some are healthy, some are not. Unhealthy fears can stop us from being our best or achieving what we are potentially capable of. We all have talents, abilities, dreams, aspirations. But we don't get to achieve our full potential or achieve what we really want. There are 3 main types of fear that can stop you from achieving the life of your dreams.
How to improve 
Your self image and how you think of yourself is the determinant of your success, behavior and outcome in life. It is the blueprint upon which you will behave. All your actions feelings, behavior, and abilities will be consistent with this self image. You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be. Maxwell Matz in his book 
"To your own self be true." William Shakespeare
I am a child of God. I am a good person. I am made in God's image. I am intelligent.
You are the greatest wonder of the world. You are nature's greatest miracle. Og Mandino declares this uniqueness and wonder " 
" There's only thing in this world that's worth having. Love. You love somebody, somebody loves you. That's all there is to it. But if you don't get that, you've got nothing, so you take the next best thing. You take power or money or fame or whatever little morsel you can pick for yourself as second best."
Self esteem is how we view ourselves, 
